Tales from the Heart: Healing and Loving Beyond Divorce

February 21, 2024
by Trisha Walker

We all long for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Whether it be with our friends, family, or romantic partners, we desire to experience love, trust, and happiness. However, not all relationships are positive and nurturing. Some can leave us with deep wounds and scars that seem impossible to heal from. These are the traumatic relationships, ones that can have a long-lasting impact on our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. There is hope.  Healing from traumatic relationships is possible, and with God's guidance, you can find peace and restoration.

In today’s world, we all experience some level of trauma in our life.  Whether we realize it or not, it does affect us, how we respond to life and the people around us.  In my personal experiences growing up, my father was an alcoholic, drug addict, and I witnessed a lot of physical and emotional abuse toward my mother. (My father has been clean and sober for over five years now😊 All glory given to God).  I carried a lot of this anger and unhealthy ways of relating to Thomas into the first 12 years of our marriage.  When I finally realized that I was repeating some of the same things in my own marriage and parenting that I learned growing up, I knew a change needed to be made.  Through seeking Jesus and partnering with a pastor friend in prayer, I started my transformational journey in a new walk with the Lord, starting to press into a greater joy and freedom that I had never known before.  Now 15 years later, my marriage is completely restored, there has been redemption in family relationships, and I passionately help others experience this same breakthrough in their lives that I have experienced.  

Steps to Get There:

First and foremost, seeking God's guidance is crucial in the healing process. As believers, we know that God is the ultimate healer. He sees our pain and is always ready to wrap us in His loving arms. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Turning to God in prayer and seeking His word can bring immense comfort and provide a sense of direction. Through His grace and love, God can reveal the root causes of our pain and help us find the path to healing.

He heals the brokenhearted
And binds up their wounds
[healing their pain and comforting their sorrow] 
Psalm 147.3 (AMP)

The next step in healing from traumatic relationships is letting go of past baggage. Often, we hold onto grudges, anger, and hurt from our past relationships, and these negative emotions weigh us down. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus teaches us to forgive others so that we may be forgiven. Forgiveness does not mean that what happened was okay, but it sets us free from the burden of bitterness and resentment. Sometimes this takes confiding in a pastor or trusting friend to partner in prayer as we go through this process.

For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 6:14-15 (AMP)

Lastly, finding our identity in Christ is crucial in the healing process. Traumatic relationships can shatter our self-worth and leave us feeling broken and lost. But as believers, we are children of God, fearfully and wonderfully made in His image. Our identity is not defined by our past or our relationships; it is found in Christ who loves us unconditionally. Jeremiah 31:3 says, "I have loved you with an everlasting love." When we embrace our identity in Christ, we can find the strength and courage to heal and move forward.

Through my prayer ministry, I have partnered with hundreds of men and women where we work through this very topic of healing from their trauma, letting go of unforgiveness and getting a clear understanding of their identity in Christ.  These Freedom sessions (often called Sozo sessions) help people break down the barriers that they may be feeling with God, and they leave the session feeling lighter, filled with love and hope, and have a greater sense of their purpose moving forward.  If you would like more information on having one of these Freedom sessions with me, you are welcome to reach out to me or book a FREE discovery call: https://trishaandthomas.com/contact-us/.

In the midst of pain and brokenness, it may feel impossible to heal from traumatic relationships. But with God's guidance, letting go of past baggage, and finding our identity in Christ, we can overcome and find healing. It may not be an easy journey, but it is one that is worth taking. Trust in God's love and His plan for your life, and remember that His grace is sufficient. He will never leave your side, and He will guide you through the healing process.


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Trisha & Thomas Walker have been married for 27+ years, live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have three children. They are relationship coaches and founding Directors of LGLP Ministries, Inc. (Love God Love People), a 501c3 organization since 2014. They were both certified as Couple Communication™ Coaches in 2010 and then as ThriveSphere™ Relationship Map Facilitators in 2020. The minisry’s vision is to see healed and whole families that impact their communities with the love of God to bring restoration, unity, and transformation

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