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Take care of your soul, nourish your body, and nurture your soul. When we prioritize our own well-being, we radiate positivity and inspire those around us. Remember, you are loved by your Heavenly Father and capable of amazing transformation. Let's live the life we were destined for.

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We wanted to take a moment to share our experience and some tips that have greatly improved the intimacy in our marriage. Our hope is that these tips will also benefit you and your spouse in your own relationship.

First and foremost, We believe that love and grace are essential components for a thriving marriage. As we all know, a successful marriage requires effort and commitment from both partners. Showing love and grace towards each other, even during tough times, can help strengthen your bond and deepen your intimacy.

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” 
Colossians 4:6 (NIV)

Communication is also vital in any relationship, especially in a marriage. Communication in our relationship wasn’t always good.  In fact, until about 2010, it actually sucked.  We have had to learn tools to communicate better and actually work at it.  Nothing improves unless we are intentional and put what we are learning into practice.  

We both make it a point to have open and honest communication without any judgment or shame. This allows us to address any issues or concerns that may arise and work through them together. By learning to give each space to share, being fully present in conversations and truly being open about ourselves (fully self-aware and sharing that with each other), it has made a huge difference in our level of intimacy.  We like to define “intimacy” as:   


Another important aspect is to make time for each other. In our busy lives, it is easy to get caught up in work, household chores, and other responsibilities. But setting aside quality time for just the two of you is crucial for maintaining intimacy. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, even a simple date night or a walk in the park can do wonders for your relationship.

Lastly, allow the Lord to remove any shame that you may be carrying.  When we do that and live before our spouse without shame, truly sharing our whole selves, and they do the same, we allow each other to be fully understood and known, fully seen, and fully heard.  Scott & Jenni Means, guests on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage, call this process living before your spouse naked without shame.

Jesus’ Words To You:
Be Fully Known By Me
Be Fully Seen By Me
Be Fully Heard By Me

We truly hope these tips can benefit your marriage as much as they have benefited ours. Remember, every relationship is unique, so find what works best for you and your spouse.

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As the famous saying goes, “Family comes first.” But in today’s fast-paced and chaotic world, it can be challenging to prioritize our loved ones amidst our busy schedules and never-ending to-do lists. However, making our family a top priority is crucial for building strong relationships and creating a happy and fulfilling life. So how do you prioritize your family in a way that blesses your home? Here are a few essential tips to help you get started.

Tip #1: Keep God First

One of the most crucial aspects of prioritizing your family is making sure that God is at the center of it all. We live in a society that often values success and material possessions over family and spirituality. However, taking the time to nurture your relationship with God will provide a solid foundation for your family. It allows you to have a faith-driven perspective, prioritizing love, compassion, and forgiveness over worldly desires. Make it a habit to pray together.  As my mother in-law used to tell Thomas and I, “When you pray together, you stay together”. By keeping God first, you are setting an example for your family and creating a harmonious and grounded home.

When you pray together, you stay together.

Tip #2: Your Spouse Comes Second

Marriage is a partnership, and just like any other relationship, it requires nurturing and effort. Many couples make the mistake of putting their children before their spouse, thinking it shows love and dedication. However, neglecting your marriage can lead to feelings of resentment, detachment, and even divorce. So make sure to prioritize your spouse's needs and take the time to go on date nights, have meaningful conversations, and show appreciation for one another. A strong marriage sets a positive example for your children and strengthens the family unit.

Personal Story:

About 11 years after marriage, Thomas and I had our third child.  Life at that time had a lot of stressors going on with work demands, parenting demands, in-law pressures, etc.  We were having a hard time connecting emotionally and physically.  Thomas had already been watching porn occasionally but now he wanted me to watch it with him and act out some of the scenes.  I was trying to please him and make him happy, so by opening this door to pornography in my life, it started leading us down a dark tunnel where I began compromising my relationship with God and the standards that I had for myself in order to try to please my husband.  At one point, I realized how I was actually putting pleasing my husband above my worship to my God.  For example, I was sacrificing my values, opening the door to certain sin in my life and muffling the voice of any conviction that I had.  I felt broken, used and not loved at all.  

The first commandment from the ten commandments is “You shall have no other gods before Me.”  We realized how we needed to put God back into proper order in our lives and make our worship and commitment to Him first before any needs or demands that even we had for each other.  We did this by repenting to the Lord, forgiving each other for how we had been treating each other, and then starting to see each other as a cherished child of God instead of as an object or toy.  We both removed porn completely from our lives, and began working with a Chirstian counselor to get healing and deliverance in this area of our lives individually and as a married couple.

“You shall have no other gods before Me.” 
Exodus 20:3 (NIV)

Tip #3: Your Kids Come Third

Putting your children first may seem natural as a parent. However, constantly catering to their every need and want can lead to feelings of entitlement and raise expectations. It's essential to create a balanced dynamic where your kids understand the importance of everyone's needs and respect their parents' time. Make sure to set boundaries and involve your children in decision-making processes. By doing so, you are teaching them valuable life skills and fostering a healthy and respectful relationship.

In today’s society, it can be easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. However, making your family a top priority is vital for creating a strong and happy household. By keeping God first, nurturing your marriage, and balancing your children's needs, you are investing in the well-being of your family and cultivating love and unity. Remember, family is not an obligation; it's a precious gift that deserves our utmost attention and care. So take the time to prioritize your loved ones, and you will reap the rewards of a fulfilled and joyful family life.

If you would want to learn more about this topic, we encourage that you visit our blog, where we frequently post articles about marriage, faith, and personal development.

Part 2 of our interview with Pastors Clint & Jennifer Adams (episode 7) on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage where they shared how they cultivated a strong connection in their marriage spanning over three decades and gave a wealth of wisdom on keeping the spark alive. From maintaining a steadfast intention for a thriving family and marriage to aligning on shared interests, they leave no stone unturned as they delve into the heart of marital intimacy.

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Are you feeling like the fire has gone out in your marriage? You're not alone. With the busyness of everyday life, it's easy for the passion and intimacy in a marriage to fizzle out. But fear not, because there are steps you can take to rekindle the spark and bring back the excitement and closeness in your relationship. 

In our October’s podcast episode, we interviewed Pastors Clint & Jennifer Adams where they talked about strengthening your marital connection and tips on how to rekindle sex in marriage.  Here are just a few highlights from this topic for practical and intentional ways to ignite the flames in the bedroom.     

1. Being intentional in your relationship by keeping sex a priority

Pastor Clint said it is important to start by spreading good seeds into your marriage.  He gave some simple ways to do this, such as, being intentional with your words, being intentional with your actions, and being intentional in thinking about your spouse above yourself.  Pastor Jennifer said it is important to shift your perspective from focusing only on yourself and your needs to focusing on loving your spouse and what they need.  She said, “Everything gets taken care of for me when I shift my focus to how I can love him [Clint]”.

“He who loves his life will lose it and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” 
John 12:25 (NKJV)

2. Be sure to cultivate your friendship & nurture intimacy

Building intimacy first starts by spending time with one another and by being friends.  I remember when our kids were young. Thomas and I had demanding jobs and long commutes.  Sometimes it just felt like we were two ships that passed in the wind.  However, we would make it a point to take one evening once or twice a month to let my oldest nephew or my mother in-law babysit.  We didn’t have much money to spend, so we would take a drive somewhere and just listen to music (something we would often do when we first met and fell in love).  Another thing we would sometimes do after a long day is run a bubble bath for the two of us to get in, relax and just talk.  How you build friendship and intimacy as a couple can be unique to you and your relationship.  The important thing is that you cultivate and nurture whatever works for you both to help in keeping your marriage strong.

3. Build a lasting connection

Building and maintaining connection in marriage requires starting outside of the bedroom before even getting inside of the bedroom.  In this episode of Seeds For Your Marriage, Thomas said, “Sex, our physical fitness, our finances, how we communicate, and our relationship with Christ; these are all connected elements in cultivating and sustaining a strong connection in marriage.”  Have open lines of communication with each other about what you both want and need inside and outside of the bedroom.  This can help to create empathy for our spouse and bring vulnerability into the relationship.  When we can be fully authentic in who we are, what we are experiencing, what we want, and share these things in a loving way with our partner, it gives them the opportunity to do the same with us.  This begins to create connection and trust in the relationship.

If you'd like to explore this topic further, we recommend checking out our blog, where we regularly share articles on faith, marriage, and personal growth.

We interviewed Pastors Clint & Jennifer Adams (episode 7) on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage where they shared how they cultivated a strong connection in their marriage spanning over three decades and gave a wealth of wisdom on keeping the spark alive. From maintaining a steadfast intention for a thriving family and marriage to aligning on shared interests, they leave no stone unturned as they delve into the heart of marital intimacy.

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Vulnerability Definition:

Vulnerability is the cornerstone of forming authentic connections with others, especially with our partners. It is the willingness to expose our true selves, flaws and all, without the fear of rejection. When we open up about our failures, we demonstrate trust, honesty, and a shared vulnerability that can foster deeper emotional connections within the marriage.

What does vulnerability look like in a Christian marriage?

In the journey of building a strong marital bond despite a fighting relationship, sharing our failures with our partner can be a daunting task. We may fear rejection or judgment, leading us to hide our deepest thoughts and emotions. However, in this blog post, we will explore the importance of vulnerability, what it looks like, how failures can shape us, and how sharing them can contribute to marital success, even in times of hard marriage.

Failure is an inevitable part of life, and it is how we perceive and react to these failures that determine our growth and success. By allowing ourselves to learn from our mistakes, we can evolve and improve our future actions. Embracing failure as a stepping stone toward greatness provides a powerful perspective on personal development. Approaching communication issues in marriage  with humility allows for communication skills to develop.

We recently interviewed Chuck and Linda McCallum on our podcast about how they worked together in their marriage and even grew closer during a time when their children were struggling with addictions. Linda was sharing how failure isn’t a bad thing because it helps us to learn what went wrong, it gives us opportunities to be vulnerable and connect with our spouse about the situation, then provides space for growth both individually and together on ways to do things differently the next time. She said, “God lets us fall and fail in the right places, but He watches over us and He gives us the small failure before we hit the big things.” This only goes to show how failures can indeed strengthen communication in marriage.

“God lets us fall and fail in the right places, but he watches over us and he gives us the small failures before we hit the big things.”
Linda McCallum, wife of Executive Pastor at Infusion Church (Dublin, Ca)

Vulnerability is the cornerstone of forming authentic connections with others, especially with our partners. It is the willingness to expose our true selves, flaws and all, without the fear of rejection. When we open up about our failures, we demonstrate trust, honesty, and a shared vulnerability that can foster deeper emotional connections within the marriage.

In Thomas’s and my relationship, we practice being vulnerable with each other by breaking up conversations into individual topics.  Then, we each have an opportunity to share how we are experiencing that particular topic through the act of being completely self-aware.  We do this by making “I” statements, by not blaming, getting angry, defensive, etc.  We understand that if we are open and vulnerable when sharing, it is the listener's job to be present with the sole objective of gaining understanding into the other person. We have agreed that we will not throw what the other person said back into their face later on.  That would only cause the other person to not feel safe and shut down.

Our willingness to share our failures with our partner is an indication of the level of trust in the relationship. It shows that we have faith in their ability to accept us as we are, flaws and all. When we allow our partner to see our vulnerabilities, we invite them to do the same. When we are authentic in our sharing, it helps create a safe space for emotional intimacy to flourish, and strengthen the marital bond. Openly discussing failures can lead to improved connection in marriage.

Discussing our failures and the lessons learned from them can transform our relationships into a powerful support system. As we share our individual struggles and challenges, we invite our partner to offer support, encouragement, and guidance. This shared experience can cultivate empathy, understanding, and a deeper connection that can weather any storm.

Creating a healthy support system is vital to our emotional, spiritual and physical health.  If our partner isn’t the one we initially feel comfortable sharing with, finding people who we can open up to is an excellent starting point.  Examples are:

  • A relationship coach
  • A pastor 
  • A counselor
  • A support group

Being a part of a Christian small group or having a few solid and sound Christian marriage couples as friends is key to sharing life with the community and not feeling like we are alone.  Then, when we need some encouragement, have questions about relationships or just want to have some fun, we have people we have created a life with, we trust and can begin to be vulnerable with.  This helps to foster deeper and meaningful relationships with our spouse and the community.

People’s identities can be multifaceted, consisting of our successes, failures, the roles we play as a parent, spouse, business owner, employee, friend, etc. True personal growth occurs when we do not allow ourselves to be defined by our failures. Instead our true identity liberates us when we learn from them, inspire others through our successes, and ultimately let our Heavenly Father define who we are by who He says we are.  St. Paul, the Apostle in the New Testament wrote, “And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba Father!”  Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ.” (Galatians 4:6-7 NKJV)  Recognizing that we are chosen, loved, and His precious children allows us to approach vulnerability with courage and confidence.

“And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba Father!”  Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ.”
(Galatians 4:6-7 NKJV)

Though opening up about failures can feel intimidating, embracing vulnerability is key for marital success. By learning from mistakes, candidly sharing experiences, and offering mutual support through life's ups and downs, couples build trust, emotional intimacy, and understanding – a firm foundation that endures. Our failures do not define who we are, but the willingness to grow through them shapes us into better partners and individuals. With open and judgment-free communication in relationships, we can discover the transformative power of vulnerability. Let us have the courage to share our imperfections and see how, together, we are made stronger.

Communication challenges don't have to keep harming your marriage. Small changes can make a big difference. Equipping yourselves with just a few simple techniques can help end the fighting and foster understanding. If you're looking for practical, research-backed ways to improve how you communicate as a couple, be sure to check out our free guide. It shares 5 powerful yet easy hacks for improving communication. Don't let destructive arguments continue to damage your relationship - learn how to communicate in a healthier, more productive way and restore peace in your marriage.

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