My in-laws were married for over 50 years. Yet, for the last 20 years or so, it sometimes seemed like they were more strangers than they were friends. They slept in separate bedrooms. In fact, when we would tell one of them some important information about what was going on in our life, we would assume they would just share the information with the other person….. Not so much.
How does something like this happen? Two people who love each other so much, who have created an entire life together, even a legacy of a family, have grown so far apart that they seem like they are just roommates.
It Starts With Communication!
It is the lifeline of a relationship. When two people stop sharing, stop talking, or only talk about “Shop Talk” the things that need to get done, the relationship can begin to grow distant (regardless if you love each other).
My recommendation is to force yourselves to do “date night”. Force yourselves to talk, but not about the kids, not about the house, very little about work…. Force yourselves to talk until you can connect. This small talk may seem like a little thing, but it is tremendous in keeping your relationship alive.
Check out our CommunicationWORX program for couples to learn more!
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About Trisha & Thomas Walker
Trisha and Thomas are founders of Seeds For Your Community, a faith-centered nonprofit that helps individuals and families experience healing in spirit, soul, and body. Through relationship coaching, practical tools, marriage education, and global outreach, Seeds For Your Community plants small seeds that restore families and build healthier communities.