Ever heard these words from your spouse or vice versa?
During the first half of our marriage, we used to threaten each other with the “D” word when we were trying to get the other person to change or to JUST LISTEN. Many people will throw this word out when they are angry or completely frustrated and just don’t know what else to do.
One thing we finally had to learn is we didn’t want to open the door to something and end up down a road we never intended to be. We finally had to agree to not use the “D” word…. no matter how helpless we felt. We had to surround ourselves with the help – the missing pieces to help us get to where we wanted to be. We sought counseling, pastoring, and even mentoring from other married couples who had gotten breakthroughs in their marriage.
One of the best programs we did was the Couple Communication™ Program. We learned to communicate more effectively in a non-accusatory way, listen to really understand each other, and honor each other in the things we each wanted for ourselves and our family. 12 years later, it has truly paid off. Even our children have learned this communication framework to effectively speak with their siblings, friends or even us.
Many of the couples we have coached have expressed how this program has helped them get resolution on issues they have been dealing with for years. We love coaching couples so much in this program, we made it available online to be able to work with people no matter where they live.
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About Trisha & Thomas Walker
Trisha and Thomas are founders of Seeds For Your Community, a faith-centered nonprofit that helps individuals and families experience healing in spirit, soul, and body. Through relationship coaching, practical tools, marriage education, and global outreach, Seeds For Your Community plants small seeds that restore families and build healthier communities.