As we go through our busy lives, it's easy to feel like we are just one thread away from everything unraveling. I know from personal experience that juggling multiple roles and responsibilities can be overwhelming. As a wife, mother, business owner, house manager, ministry leader, friend, daughter, and more, I had so much on my plate that I felt the need to control everything and everyone just to keep myself from feeling like everything was going to fall apart.

But the truth is, we can't control everything. And trying to do so only leads to stress, anxiety, and fear. That's why I want to share with you how I learned to give up control to God and trust in His plan for my life. It wasn't easy, but by allowing Him to search every part of my being, I was able to root out the fears that were holding me back. And it's made all the difference.

Now, when I feel overwhelmed or out of control, I turn to God and ask Him these questions:

👉 What are you doing in this situation in my life?
👉 What are you saying to me?
👉 Can you help me exchange my fear in this situation with your peace?
👉 Can you give me joy in the midst of this chaos?

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. James 1:5 (NLT)

Trusting in God's plan and stepping out of our comfort zones allows us to experience His faithfulness and provision. So let's let go of our need for control and lean on His strength and direction.

We recently had the privilege of interviewing Joel & Alex Silver on our Seeds For Your Marriage podcast. About a year ago, they decided to step outside of their comfort zone and take a journey across the country to minister to the poor, heal the sick, and get people’s testimonies of how God is moving in their own lives. They now have a YouTube channel @thegoodreport406. Check out their interview below and be inspired by their journey. I hope their encouragement reminds you that God is always in control, and we can find peace and joy in surrendering to His plan.

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV)


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Are you looking to strengthen your relationship and grow closer to your partner? Look no further! Our Couple's Devotional has everything you need to achieve true intimacy and connection.

To make things even more exciting, we're running a special promotion for the entire month of April. We will be giving away two $50 gift cards to take your partner on a date to Ruth's Chris Steak House and Outback Steakhouse!

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All participants will be entered into a raffle and two lucky winners will be chosen at the end of April. Don't miss out on this opportunity to invest in your relationship and win a special date night for you and your partner. We can't wait to join you on this journey towards wholeness. 💕

Take care of your soul, nourish your body, and nurture your soul. When we prioritize our own well-being, we radiate positivity and inspire those around us. Remember, you are loved by your Heavenly Father and capable of amazing transformation. Let's live the life we were destined for.


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We all long for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Whether it be with our friends, family, or romantic partners, we desire to experience love, trust, and happiness. However, not all relationships are positive and nurturing. Some can leave us with deep wounds and scars that seem impossible to heal from. These are the traumatic relationships, ones that can have a long-lasting impact on our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. There is hope.  Healing from traumatic relationships is possible, and with God's guidance, you can find peace and restoration.

In today’s world, we all experience some level of trauma in our life.  Whether we realize it or not, it does affect us, how we respond to life and the people around us.  In my personal experiences growing up, my father was an alcoholic, drug addict, and I witnessed a lot of physical and emotional abuse toward my mother. (My father has been clean and sober for over five years now😊 All glory given to God).  I carried a lot of this anger and unhealthy ways of relating to Thomas into the first 12 years of our marriage.  When I finally realized that I was repeating some of the same things in my own marriage and parenting that I learned growing up, I knew a change needed to be made.  Through seeking Jesus and partnering with a pastor friend in prayer, I started my transformational journey in a new walk with the Lord, starting to press into a greater joy and freedom that I had never known before.  Now 15 years later, my marriage is completely restored, there has been redemption in family relationships, and I passionately help others experience this same breakthrough in their lives that I have experienced.  

Steps to Get There:

First and foremost, seeking God's guidance is crucial in the healing process. As believers, we know that God is the ultimate healer. He sees our pain and is always ready to wrap us in His loving arms. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Turning to God in prayer and seeking His word can bring immense comfort and provide a sense of direction. Through His grace and love, God can reveal the root causes of our pain and help us find the path to healing.

He heals the brokenhearted
And binds up their wounds
[healing their pain and comforting their sorrow] 
Psalm 147.3 (AMP)

The next step in healing from traumatic relationships is letting go of past baggage. Often, we hold onto grudges, anger, and hurt from our past relationships, and these negative emotions weigh us down. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus teaches us to forgive others so that we may be forgiven. Forgiveness does not mean that what happened was okay, but it sets us free from the burden of bitterness and resentment. Sometimes this takes confiding in a pastor or trusting friend to partner in prayer as we go through this process.

For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 6:14-15 (AMP)

Lastly, finding our identity in Christ is crucial in the healing process. Traumatic relationships can shatter our self-worth and leave us feeling broken and lost. But as believers, we are children of God, fearfully and wonderfully made in His image. Our identity is not defined by our past or our relationships; it is found in Christ who loves us unconditionally. Jeremiah 31:3 says, "I have loved you with an everlasting love." When we embrace our identity in Christ, we can find the strength and courage to heal and move forward.

Through my prayer ministry, I have partnered with hundreds of men and women where we work through this very topic of healing from their trauma, letting go of unforgiveness and getting a clear understanding of their identity in Christ.  These Freedom sessions (often called Sozo sessions) help people break down the barriers that they may be feeling with God, and they leave the session feeling lighter, filled with love and hope, and have a greater sense of their purpose moving forward.  If you would like more information on having one of these Freedom sessions with me, you are welcome to reach out to me or book a FREE discovery call: https://trishaandthomas.com/contact-us/.

In the midst of pain and brokenness, it may feel impossible to heal from traumatic relationships. But with God's guidance, letting go of past baggage, and finding our identity in Christ, we can overcome and find healing. It may not be an easy journey, but it is one that is worth taking. Trust in God's love and His plan for your life, and remember that His grace is sufficient. He will never leave your side, and He will guide you through the healing process.


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Understanding the significance of how having a healthy body impacts us personally, in our relationships and even in our spiritual walk has been a journey Thomas and I have been on for the last eight years.  For Thomas, he struggled with being overweight, having high blood pressure, having high cholesterol, and was in the pre-diabetec range.  

In July 2022,  Thomas faced uphill battles of losing weight but then gaining it back.  He was seeing a cardiologist due to years of heart issues as well.  His cholesterol was 222, blood pressure was 170, his weight was 270 and was heading down a spiral road of diabetes.  The Lord told him one night that he needed to stop drinking alcohol for him to be able to walk out the assignments that He has for him.  July, 2022 was the last time he took a drink.  He wasn’t a binge drinker or anything like that, but it was affecting his ability to be healthy, have total focus, and walk out a surrendered life with God.

Thomas realized that he was going to need to make changes in his life if he wanted to live a long life of health and not have a lifetime of disease.  It took him setting goals, being focused and having intention.  1 ½ years later, he has lost 40 lbs, his cholesterol is down to 151, his blood pressure is 120, he is out of the pre-diabetic range, and his cardiologist doesn’t want to see him back for several years😃.   

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” 
3 John 1:2 (NIV)

As Chritstians, to have total health, it requires us to be well in our body, soul and spirit.  It can be easy to neglect our soul or not know how to have a healthy soul.  Our soul is our mind, or will and our emotions.  Here are some insights on how to be healthy in each of these areas of your life.

Mind 

First and foremost, we must understand what it means to "not be conformed to this world." In simple terms, it means not following the ways of the world, which are often selfish, greedy, and focused on material things. As Christians, we are called to live differently, to live according to the teachings of Jesus. This doesn't mean we have to completely isolate ourselves from the world, but rather we must strive to live in a way that reflects our faith and values.

Now, how do we actually go about renewing our mind to Christ? The answer is through studying and meditating on God's Word, the Bible. The Bible is not just a book of stories, but it is the living, breathing Word of God. It is through reading and studying the Bible that we gain understanding, wisdom, and guidance on how to live our lives according to God's will. As it says in Joshua 1:8, "Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful."

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Romans 12:2 (NIV)

Will

Let's understand who Father God is to us. As the most loving father anyone will ever be able to have, he wants the best for us. He has plans for our lives that are greater than we could ever imagine. However, in order to fully live out these plans, we must be willing to align our will to His.

Aligning our will to God does not mean giving up our free will or becoming robots. God has given us the gift of free will and He wants us to use it wisely. It simply means surrendering our desires and plans to God's will and trusting that He knows what's best for us. This can be a difficult concept to grasp for many of us who are used to being in control of our own lives. But as we let go of our own will and align it to God's, we will experience a sense of peace and fulfillment that surpasses our own understanding.

In the Bible, Jesus himself models this act of surrendering to God's will. In the Garden of Gethsemane, facing his crucifixion, Jesus prays to God saying, "Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine." (Luke 22:42) Here we see Jesus, fully human, struggling with his own will but ultimately trusting in God's plan for him.

So how can we align our will to God's? It starts with communication. We need to have a constant and open dialogue with our Heavenly Father. This means spending time in prayer and seeking His guidance in our decisions. It also means being still and listening for His voice. It may not always be easy, but as we continue to seek His will, He will reveal it to us in His perfect timing.

Another important aspect is obedience. Once we have clarity on God's will, it's important for us to obey and take action. This may mean stepping out of our comfort zone or making sacrifices, but we can trust that God's plans for us are always for our good.

Emotions

As human beings, we are complex creatures with a wide range of emotions. We were created in the image of God, who also experiences emotions. However, we can often struggle to properly handle and express our emotions. This is where Jesus comes in. He wants to help us navigate the ups and downs of our emotional landscape. In fact, He invites us to cast our burdens on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7).

But how exactly can Jesus help us with our emotions? Firstly, we need to understand that God is our creator and He knows us better than we know ourselves. He knows every thought, feeling, and emotion that we experience. He understands the root cause of all our emotions and is able to guide us through them. When we turn to Jesus in prayer, He can give us insight and wisdom that we may not have on our own.

Secondly, Jesus offers us a sense of peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). When we are feeling overwhelmed or anxious, we can ask Him for peace and he will graciously provide it. This peace is not something that we can achieve on our own, it is a gift from God. By allowing Him to help us with our emotions, we can experience a deep sense of calm and security.

Thirdly, Jesus encourages us to come to him with our emotions, no matter how messy or difficult they may be. He doesn't want us to hide our feelings or put on a facade of fake happiness. He invites us to be vulnerable and honest with him. This can be a freeing experience, as we no longer have to carry the weight of our emotions alone. We have been promised for our burdens to be carried if we give it to Him, and then all things will work together for our good to those who love Him to bring about what is good.

Remember God (three in one) is a loving and compassionate Father, a brother closer than any other, the Holy Spirit who will teach us in all things.  He cares for us on a deep and personal level. He is always interceding for us and desires to comfort us and guide us through His word, prayer, and worship among the few. This is a relationship that we get to build with Him.  The more we know and trust Him, the easier it becomes to allow Him to guide us. 


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With Fall right around the corner, we want to bless you with some encouragement today as many are going through transitions personally and in their marriage. 

One of the marriage questions we have received is, “How are Christians embracing recovery in their relationship?”

We will dive into this topic that touches the core of many relationships: recovery in marriage. 

In our September’s podcast episode, we interviewed Mike & Eileen Pelletier where they shared their early road to recovery and the H.O.W. behind their amazing journey from being a hard marriage to one where they are today reaping the fruits from their labors.  

As we each dive deeper into our relationship with God, we begin to understand the importance of honesty, openness, and willingness to establish a strong bond with our creator and our spouses / families.

In the journey of marriage, challenges often arise that test the strength of our commitment.  Thomas and my marriage is no different.  In fact, there were times we weren’t even sure we were going to stay together.  Some keys that made all of the difference for us were three things:

  1. Being honest with ourselves, God and each other.      
  2. Being open to changing ourselves before expecting change from our partner.

Being willing to commit to each other and the path that God has for us.

We believe that recovery is not only possible but can lead to a renewed and even more profound love for each other. So, let's explore some of these key points that empower couples to navigate the path of recovery together:

1. Honesty: Building Trust Brick by Brick

Open and honest communication stands as the cornerstone of any successful marriage. As Christians, we strive to cultivate an atmosphere of trust, free from judgment or condemnation. Through communicating in a marriage and embracing transparency, we invite healing and growth into our relationship, fostering an environment where both partners feel safe and understood.

Whoever gives an honest answer kisses the lips.
Proverbs 24:26 (ESV)

2. Openness: Unlocking the Gates of Understanding

To foster recovery, we must be willing to open up our hearts to one another. Jesus teaches us the value of compassion and empathy. By listening attentively to our partners without biases or preconceived notions, we can bridge the gaps and truly comprehend their emotions, thoughts, and experiences. Embracing our shared faith, we learn to extend grace and walk hand in hand on this transformative journey.

So, as God’s own chosen people, who are holy [set apart, sanctified for His purpose] and well-beloved [by God Himself], put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience [which has the power to endure whatever injustice or unpleasantness comes, with good temper];
Colossians 3:2 (AMP
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3. Willingness: Building Bridges to a Brighter Future

Recovery in marriage requires unwavering commitment from both partners. As Christians, we have the strength to confront our own shortcomings while supporting our loved ones in their quest for healing. By demonstrating our willingness to put in the necessary effort and make necessary changes, we can overcome obstacles and rebuild stronger foundations for our marriages.

Restore to me the joy of Your salvation
And sustain me with a willing spirit.
Psalm 51:2 (NASB)

We hope these insights inspire and encourage you to embrace recovery in your relationships. By leaning on God's guidance and implementing these principles, we believe you can experience restoration and renewed joy in your interactions.

If you or someone you know is currently facing difficulties in their marriage, we encourage you to seek guidance from a pastor or Christian counselor, or someone who can provide valuable support and insights tailored to your unique circumstances.

If you'd like to explore this topic further, we recommend checking out our blog, where we regularly share articles on faith, marriage, and personal growth.


We interviewed Mike & Eileen Pelletier (episode 6) on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage and they share God's redemptive story in their relationship while going through recovery together.  Their journey is a compelling testament to faith, love, and resilience, showing us that an honest, open and willing heart can make a profound impact in a relationship. This is not just an episode; it's a journey of rediscovery, realignment, and renewal - one you won't want to miss.

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Over the last 27 + years of our marriage, finances have been nothing short of a hot topic in our marriage.  In fact, the question of “Where did all of the money go?” or “Why is the savings account not where we said it would be?” has caused some of the most heated arguments we have had.  When we asked the public and found out that a top relationship couple question is “How to manage finances in a marriage?” and “How to do it peacefully as a Christian couple?”, we decided to share a few tips we have learned.

Financial Tips on Marriage:

1. Both people in the marriage need to be actively involved or at least aware of all financial aspects of their marriage.  

One person might be better at budgeting, paying bills, planning and saving money for big expenses, preparing for retirement, etc.  However, the other spouse needs to still be a part of the process and know what is going on financially, and they both need to agree on what each person’s roles and responsibilities are as it relates to this.

Personal Story

Thomas’ parents had the traditional role where the husband made the money, handled all of the bills, and the wife just trusted that he was managing it well. After Thomas’ dad had retired, he made a huge financial decision to invest all of their retirement into a business that severely hurt them financially. His mom had huge regrets later in life about not being more aware of the financial decisions that were being made, without having any input or partnership in the decision making process.  Learning from their mistakes, Thomas and I now know just how important communication in a marriage is.

2. Set Financial Goals

Setting financial goals at the beginning of each year and then both people agree on how to achieve these goals is key.  “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it (Habakkuk 2:2).  Thomas and I learned how to apply this scripture to our marriage by setting financial goals each year and then writing them down so we can refer back to them.  We use our Couple’s Goal Planner (link to page on Free Resources Page on Website ) to help us do this.  We decide what each person’s role is in achieving this.  If it is a big goal, then we break it down into smaller milestones.  It will then feel like we are making progress when we hit each one.  

Areas We Get Agreement On:

  • How are we going to make the financial progress we are looking for?
  • When do we want to achieve it?
  • How will we know when progress has been made?
  • How often will we review progress and make adjustments as needed (monthly, quarterly, etc.)

And the Lord answered me:

Write the vision;
make it plain on tablets,
so he may run who reads it.
3For still the vision awaits its appointed time;
it hastens to the end—it will not lie.
If it seems slow, wait for it;
it will surely come; it will not delay.

-Habakkuk 2:2 (ESV)

3. Learn to communicate well with each other and be open and honest while doing it.

Learning effective communication for relationships has been huge in avoiding unnecessary misunderstandings when we have been having conversations around our finances.  Deciding on a place and a time helps to make sure when we actually sit down to talk about finances, we are doing it during a time when we are not tired and we can both focus without distractions.  Creating a safe place for each other to share our heart allows us to know that we don’t need to hide from each other, but are free to be honest and vulnerable.  It is key for me to know that my partner has my back even when I make mistakes at times.  When we are open and honest with each other, even if we haven’t made the financial progress we are looking for, as long as we both want the same things, we can work together on how to overcome anything with prayer, wisdom and proper guidance. 


We interviewed Marshall & Julie Belcher (episode 4) on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage and they share how they overcame an addiction to shopping and depending on money to give them security.  They open up the last ten years of their marriage for people to learn from them on how to have breakthroughs in finances while learning to put your trust and security in Jesus.

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