April was an exciting month with our Couples Devotional contest. Many of you invested in your relationships through reading the devotional daily. We're thrilled to announce the winner and share other exciting updates in this month's newsletter.

Contest Winner Announcement

We're excited to announce that Mary Boone is the winner of our Couples Devotional contest! Mary will be receiving a $50 gift card to Outback Steakhouse. Congratulations Mary! Thank you to everyone who entered by purchasing the devotional, reading it daily with your partner, and leaving a review.

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Speaking at Revive Church

Thomas and Trisha were blessed to speak at Revive Church this month, sharing messages on strengthening marriages.

About The Couple's Devotional

This 21-day devotional is designed to help couples develop daily intimacy:

  • Read Scripture together
  • Learn relationship keys from Trisha & Thomas' 27+ years of marriage
  • Reflect on questions to grow closer
  • Practice vulnerability & healing through communion
  • Apply what you learn through activations

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As we go through our busy lives, it's easy to feel like we are just one thread away from everything unraveling. I know from personal experience that juggling multiple roles and responsibilities can be overwhelming. As a wife, mother, business owner, house manager, ministry leader, friend, daughter, and more, I had so much on my plate that I felt the need to control everything and everyone just to keep myself from feeling like everything was going to fall apart.

But the truth is, we can't control everything. And trying to do so only leads to stress, anxiety, and fear. That's why I want to share with you how I learned to give up control to God and trust in His plan for my life. It wasn't easy, but by allowing Him to search every part of my being, I was able to root out the fears that were holding me back. And it's made all the difference.

Now, when I feel overwhelmed or out of control, I turn to God and ask Him these questions:

👉 What are you doing in this situation in my life?
👉 What are you saying to me?
👉 Can you help me exchange my fear in this situation with your peace?
👉 Can you give me joy in the midst of this chaos?

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. James 1:5 (NLT)

Trusting in God's plan and stepping out of our comfort zones allows us to experience His faithfulness and provision. So let's let go of our need for control and lean on His strength and direction.

We recently had the privilege of interviewing Joel & Alex Silver on our Seeds For Your Marriage podcast. About a year ago, they decided to step outside of their comfort zone and take a journey across the country to minister to the poor, heal the sick, and get people’s testimonies of how God is moving in their own lives. They now have a YouTube channel @thegoodreport406. Check out their interview below and be inspired by their journey. I hope their encouragement reminds you that God is always in control, and we can find peace and joy in surrendering to His plan.

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV)


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📢 Calling all couples! 📢

Are you looking to strengthen your relationship and grow closer to your partner? Look no further! Our Couple's Devotional has everything you need to achieve true intimacy and connection.

To make things even more exciting, we're running a special promotion for the entire month of April. We will be giving away two $50 gift cards to take your partner on a date to Ruth's Chris Steak House and Outback Steakhouse!

Here's how to enter:

1️⃣ Purchase The Couple's Devotional for just 99 cents: https://trishaandthomas.com/books/

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All participants will be entered into a raffle and two lucky winners will be chosen at the end of April. Don't miss out on this opportunity to invest in your relationship and win a special date night for you and your partner. We can't wait to join you on this journey towards wholeness. 💕

Take care of your soul, nourish your body, and nurture your soul. When we prioritize our own well-being, we radiate positivity and inspire those around us. Remember, you are loved by your Heavenly Father and capable of amazing transformation. Let's live the life we were destined for.


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We all long for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Whether it be with our friends, family, or romantic partners, we desire to experience love, trust, and happiness. However, not all relationships are positive and nurturing. Some can leave us with deep wounds and scars that seem impossible to heal from. These are the traumatic relationships, ones that can have a long-lasting impact on our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. There is hope.  Healing from traumatic relationships is possible, and with God's guidance, you can find peace and restoration.

In today’s world, we all experience some level of trauma in our life.  Whether we realize it or not, it does affect us, how we respond to life and the people around us.  In my personal experiences growing up, my father was an alcoholic, drug addict, and I witnessed a lot of physical and emotional abuse toward my mother. (My father has been clean and sober for over five years now😊 All glory given to God).  I carried a lot of this anger and unhealthy ways of relating to Thomas into the first 12 years of our marriage.  When I finally realized that I was repeating some of the same things in my own marriage and parenting that I learned growing up, I knew a change needed to be made.  Through seeking Jesus and partnering with a pastor friend in prayer, I started my transformational journey in a new walk with the Lord, starting to press into a greater joy and freedom that I had never known before.  Now 15 years later, my marriage is completely restored, there has been redemption in family relationships, and I passionately help others experience this same breakthrough in their lives that I have experienced.  

Steps to Get There:

First and foremost, seeking God's guidance is crucial in the healing process. As believers, we know that God is the ultimate healer. He sees our pain and is always ready to wrap us in His loving arms. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Turning to God in prayer and seeking His word can bring immense comfort and provide a sense of direction. Through His grace and love, God can reveal the root causes of our pain and help us find the path to healing.

He heals the brokenhearted
And binds up their wounds
[healing their pain and comforting their sorrow] 
Psalm 147.3 (AMP)

The next step in healing from traumatic relationships is letting go of past baggage. Often, we hold onto grudges, anger, and hurt from our past relationships, and these negative emotions weigh us down. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus teaches us to forgive others so that we may be forgiven. Forgiveness does not mean that what happened was okay, but it sets us free from the burden of bitterness and resentment. Sometimes this takes confiding in a pastor or trusting friend to partner in prayer as we go through this process.

For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 6:14-15 (AMP)

Lastly, finding our identity in Christ is crucial in the healing process. Traumatic relationships can shatter our self-worth and leave us feeling broken and lost. But as believers, we are children of God, fearfully and wonderfully made in His image. Our identity is not defined by our past or our relationships; it is found in Christ who loves us unconditionally. Jeremiah 31:3 says, "I have loved you with an everlasting love." When we embrace our identity in Christ, we can find the strength and courage to heal and move forward.

Through my prayer ministry, I have partnered with hundreds of men and women where we work through this very topic of healing from their trauma, letting go of unforgiveness and getting a clear understanding of their identity in Christ.  These Freedom sessions (often called Sozo sessions) help people break down the barriers that they may be feeling with God, and they leave the session feeling lighter, filled with love and hope, and have a greater sense of their purpose moving forward.  If you would like more information on having one of these Freedom sessions with me, you are welcome to reach out to me or book a FREE discovery call: https://trishaandthomas.com/contact-us/.

In the midst of pain and brokenness, it may feel impossible to heal from traumatic relationships. But with God's guidance, letting go of past baggage, and finding our identity in Christ, we can overcome and find healing. It may not be an easy journey, but it is one that is worth taking. Trust in God's love and His plan for your life, and remember that His grace is sufficient. He will never leave your side, and He will guide you through the healing process.


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Understanding the significance of how having a healthy body impacts us personally, in our relationships and even in our spiritual walk has been a journey Thomas and I have been on for the last eight years.  For Thomas, he struggled with being overweight, having high blood pressure, having high cholesterol, and was in the pre-diabetec range.  

In July 2022,  Thomas faced uphill battles of losing weight but then gaining it back.  He was seeing a cardiologist due to years of heart issues as well.  His cholesterol was 222, blood pressure was 170, his weight was 270 and was heading down a spiral road of diabetes.  The Lord told him one night that he needed to stop drinking alcohol for him to be able to walk out the assignments that He has for him.  July, 2022 was the last time he took a drink.  He wasn’t a binge drinker or anything like that, but it was affecting his ability to be healthy, have total focus, and walk out a surrendered life with God.

Thomas realized that he was going to need to make changes in his life if he wanted to live a long life of health and not have a lifetime of disease.  It took him setting goals, being focused and having intention.  1 ½ years later, he has lost 40 lbs, his cholesterol is down to 151, his blood pressure is 120, he is out of the pre-diabetic range, and his cardiologist doesn’t want to see him back for several years😃.   

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” 
3 John 1:2 (NIV)

As Chritstians, to have total health, it requires us to be well in our body, soul and spirit.  It can be easy to neglect our soul or not know how to have a healthy soul.  Our soul is our mind, or will and our emotions.  Here are some insights on how to be healthy in each of these areas of your life.

Mind 

First and foremost, we must understand what it means to "not be conformed to this world." In simple terms, it means not following the ways of the world, which are often selfish, greedy, and focused on material things. As Christians, we are called to live differently, to live according to the teachings of Jesus. This doesn't mean we have to completely isolate ourselves from the world, but rather we must strive to live in a way that reflects our faith and values.

Now, how do we actually go about renewing our mind to Christ? The answer is through studying and meditating on God's Word, the Bible. The Bible is not just a book of stories, but it is the living, breathing Word of God. It is through reading and studying the Bible that we gain understanding, wisdom, and guidance on how to live our lives according to God's will. As it says in Joshua 1:8, "Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful."

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Romans 12:2 (NIV)

Will

Let's understand who Father God is to us. As the most loving father anyone will ever be able to have, he wants the best for us. He has plans for our lives that are greater than we could ever imagine. However, in order to fully live out these plans, we must be willing to align our will to His.

Aligning our will to God does not mean giving up our free will or becoming robots. God has given us the gift of free will and He wants us to use it wisely. It simply means surrendering our desires and plans to God's will and trusting that He knows what's best for us. This can be a difficult concept to grasp for many of us who are used to being in control of our own lives. But as we let go of our own will and align it to God's, we will experience a sense of peace and fulfillment that surpasses our own understanding.

In the Bible, Jesus himself models this act of surrendering to God's will. In the Garden of Gethsemane, facing his crucifixion, Jesus prays to God saying, "Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine." (Luke 22:42) Here we see Jesus, fully human, struggling with his own will but ultimately trusting in God's plan for him.

So how can we align our will to God's? It starts with communication. We need to have a constant and open dialogue with our Heavenly Father. This means spending time in prayer and seeking His guidance in our decisions. It also means being still and listening for His voice. It may not always be easy, but as we continue to seek His will, He will reveal it to us in His perfect timing.

Another important aspect is obedience. Once we have clarity on God's will, it's important for us to obey and take action. This may mean stepping out of our comfort zone or making sacrifices, but we can trust that God's plans for us are always for our good.

Emotions

As human beings, we are complex creatures with a wide range of emotions. We were created in the image of God, who also experiences emotions. However, we can often struggle to properly handle and express our emotions. This is where Jesus comes in. He wants to help us navigate the ups and downs of our emotional landscape. In fact, He invites us to cast our burdens on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7).

But how exactly can Jesus help us with our emotions? Firstly, we need to understand that God is our creator and He knows us better than we know ourselves. He knows every thought, feeling, and emotion that we experience. He understands the root cause of all our emotions and is able to guide us through them. When we turn to Jesus in prayer, He can give us insight and wisdom that we may not have on our own.

Secondly, Jesus offers us a sense of peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). When we are feeling overwhelmed or anxious, we can ask Him for peace and he will graciously provide it. This peace is not something that we can achieve on our own, it is a gift from God. By allowing Him to help us with our emotions, we can experience a deep sense of calm and security.

Thirdly, Jesus encourages us to come to him with our emotions, no matter how messy or difficult they may be. He doesn't want us to hide our feelings or put on a facade of fake happiness. He invites us to be vulnerable and honest with him. This can be a freeing experience, as we no longer have to carry the weight of our emotions alone. We have been promised for our burdens to be carried if we give it to Him, and then all things will work together for our good to those who love Him to bring about what is good.

Remember God (three in one) is a loving and compassionate Father, a brother closer than any other, the Holy Spirit who will teach us in all things.  He cares for us on a deep and personal level. He is always interceding for us and desires to comfort us and guide us through His word, prayer, and worship among the few. This is a relationship that we get to build with Him.  The more we know and trust Him, the easier it becomes to allow Him to guide us. 


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We wanted to take a moment to share our experience and some tips that have greatly improved the intimacy in our marriage. Our hope is that these tips will also benefit you and your spouse in your own relationship.

First and foremost, We believe that love and grace are essential components for a thriving marriage. As we all know, a successful marriage requires effort and commitment from both partners. Showing love and grace towards each other, even during tough times, can help strengthen your bond and deepen your intimacy.

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” 
Colossians 4:6 (NIV)

Communication is also vital in any relationship, especially in a marriage. Communication in our relationship wasn’t always good.  In fact, until about 2010, it actually sucked.  We have had to learn tools to communicate better and actually work at it.  Nothing improves unless we are intentional and put what we are learning into practice.  

We both make it a point to have open and honest communication without any judgment or shame. This allows us to address any issues or concerns that may arise and work through them together. By learning to give each space to share, being fully present in conversations and truly being open about ourselves (fully self-aware and sharing that with each other), it has made a huge difference in our level of intimacy.  We like to define “intimacy” as:   

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Another important aspect is to make time for each other. In our busy lives, it is easy to get caught up in work, household chores, and other responsibilities. But setting aside quality time for just the two of you is crucial for maintaining intimacy. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, even a simple date night or a walk in the park can do wonders for your relationship.

Lastly, allow the Lord to remove any shame that you may be carrying.  When we do that and live before our spouse without shame, truly sharing our whole selves, and they do the same, we allow each other to be fully understood and known, fully seen, and fully heard.  Scott & Jenni Means, guests on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage, call this process living before your spouse naked without shame.

Jesus’ Words To You:
Be Fully Known By Me
Be Fully Seen By Me
Be Fully Heard By Me

We truly hope these tips can benefit your marriage as much as they have benefited ours. Remember, every relationship is unique, so find what works best for you and your spouse.


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As the famous saying goes, “Family comes first.” But in today’s fast-paced and chaotic world, it can be challenging to prioritize our loved ones amidst our busy schedules and never-ending to-do lists. However, making our family a top priority is crucial for building strong relationships and creating a happy and fulfilling life. So how do you prioritize your family in a way that blesses your home? Here are a few essential tips to help you get started.

Tip #1: Keep God First

One of the most crucial aspects of prioritizing your family is making sure that God is at the center of it all. We live in a society that often values success and material possessions over family and spirituality. However, taking the time to nurture your relationship with God will provide a solid foundation for your family. It allows you to have a faith-driven perspective, prioritizing love, compassion, and forgiveness over worldly desires. Make it a habit to pray together.  As my mother in-law used to tell Thomas and I, “When you pray together, you stay together”. By keeping God first, you are setting an example for your family and creating a harmonious and grounded home.

When you pray together, you stay together.

Tip #2: Your Spouse Comes Second

Marriage is a partnership, and just like any other relationship, it requires nurturing and effort. Many couples make the mistake of putting their children before their spouse, thinking it shows love and dedication. However, neglecting your marriage can lead to feelings of resentment, detachment, and even divorce. So make sure to prioritize your spouse's needs and take the time to go on date nights, have meaningful conversations, and show appreciation for one another. A strong marriage sets a positive example for your children and strengthens the family unit.

Personal Story:

About 11 years after marriage, Thomas and I had our third child.  Life at that time had a lot of stressors going on with work demands, parenting demands, in-law pressures, etc.  We were having a hard time connecting emotionally and physically.  Thomas had already been watching porn occasionally but now he wanted me to watch it with him and act out some of the scenes.  I was trying to please him and make him happy, so by opening this door to pornography in my life, it started leading us down a dark tunnel where I began compromising my relationship with God and the standards that I had for myself in order to try to please my husband.  At one point, I realized how I was actually putting pleasing my husband above my worship to my God.  For example, I was sacrificing my values, opening the door to certain sin in my life and muffling the voice of any conviction that I had.  I felt broken, used and not loved at all.  

The first commandment from the ten commandments is “You shall have no other gods before Me.”  We realized how we needed to put God back into proper order in our lives and make our worship and commitment to Him first before any needs or demands that even we had for each other.  We did this by repenting to the Lord, forgiving each other for how we had been treating each other, and then starting to see each other as a cherished child of God instead of as an object or toy.  We both removed porn completely from our lives, and began working with a Chirstian counselor to get healing and deliverance in this area of our lives individually and as a married couple.

“You shall have no other gods before Me.” 
Exodus 20:3 (NIV)


Tip #3: Your Kids Come Third

Putting your children first may seem natural as a parent. However, constantly catering to their every need and want can lead to feelings of entitlement and raise expectations. It's essential to create a balanced dynamic where your kids understand the importance of everyone's needs and respect their parents' time. Make sure to set boundaries and involve your children in decision-making processes. By doing so, you are teaching them valuable life skills and fostering a healthy and respectful relationship.

In today’s society, it can be easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. However, making your family a top priority is vital for creating a strong and happy household. By keeping God first, nurturing your marriage, and balancing your children's needs, you are investing in the well-being of your family and cultivating love and unity. Remember, family is not an obligation; it's a precious gift that deserves our utmost attention and care. So take the time to prioritize your loved ones, and you will reap the rewards of a fulfilled and joyful family life.

If you would want to learn more about this topic, we encourage that you visit our blog, where we frequently post articles about marriage, faith, and personal development.


Part 2 of our interview with Pastors Clint & Jennifer Adams (episode 7) on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage where they shared how they cultivated a strong connection in their marriage spanning over three decades and gave a wealth of wisdom on keeping the spark alive. From maintaining a steadfast intention for a thriving family and marriage to aligning on shared interests, they leave no stone unturned as they delve into the heart of marital intimacy.

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5 Communication Techniques for Better Relationships

Communication is the lifeblood of any healthy relationship, but it can also be one of the biggest sources of conflict and disconnection when done poorly. As Christians, we know that fostering understanding, patience and grace in our relationships aligns with Biblical principles. This is especially crucial in times of hard marriage or recurring couple fights.

Strong, fulfilling relationships don't happen by chance – they take intention, commitment and wise guidance. Through personal experience and years of walking with couples, we've seen firsthand how adopting key communication skills can profoundly deepen connections.

These 5 research-backed, biblically-rooted techniques in communication for relationships, have helped countless individuals and couples overcome communication breakdown, find understanding amidst conflict, and build relationships thriving in mutual care, trust and respect.

1. Create a safe space for open conversations

When sensitive issues arise, intentionally set aside uninterrupted time and give each other full attention. This prevents distractions and helps both parties feel heard. Pray together beforehand asking God for openness.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

(Proverbs 15:1)

2. Get Clear on The Core Issue 

Slow down to clarify the root topic at hand. Don’t gloss over it with assumptions. Clearly defining the issue helps keep the discussion focused and productive. 

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” 

(James 1:19)

3. Speak for yourself with “I” Statements 

Speak for yourself by using “I think” and/or “I feel...” rather than “You did”, “You always”, “You never”...”. This avoids putting your partner on the defensive. Own your emotions and perspectives. 

 “Each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor.”

 (1 Thessalonians 4:4)

4. Listen to fully understand your partner's perspective

Give your partner your full attention without interruptions. Reflect back what you hear in your own words to ensure you understand. Ask thoughtful questions. Don’t dismiss their views. 

“He who has an ear, let him hear.” 

(Revelation 3:13)

5. Take the “High Road” in responses

When tensions rise, avoid reactive statements you’ll regret. Take a break to clear your head, then re-engage with patience and care. Exposing and removing any pride you may have allows you to avoid trying to always be right, trying to get the last word, etc.  Focus instead on putting your partner above yourself and establish a goal to maintain a heart connection with your partner above all else. Learn to manage yourself, your emotions, and your thoughts, and learn to show grace and honor even when the other person may not be doing the same.   right instead of trying to Managing ourselves, Strive to outdo one another in showing grace. 

“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.” 

(Proverbs 19:11)

Practicing these communication skills for marriage may feel uncomfortable at first, but commitment and consistency will lead to breakthroughs. Remember, progress not perfection is the goal. Focus on speaking truthfully, listening actively, and responding with care.

As Hebrews 10:24 reminds us, “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”

Healthy communication honors Christ by building up others. With God's help, choose understanding over winning arguments. Choose patience over anger. And choose love above all else.

If you want to go deeper on improving communication skills for your relationships, we encourage you to access our free webinar recording. This 35-minute webinar on Healthy Habits for Effective Communication provides more practical Christian relationship advice to transform how you connect.

Together through God's wisdom, we can cultivate connections built on grace and understanding.

When you said your wedding vows, you committed to loving each other in good times and bad, in sickness and health. But when trials hit, those promises can be put to the test. Major hardships like illness, job loss, financial problems, or communication issues can strain even the strongest marriages.

During difficult times, you may feel pulled between managing the crisis and nurturing your relationship. But keeping your marriage healthy must remain a priority so you can weather the storm together.

Here are tips for protecting and strengthening your union when crisis strikes, even during times of hard marriage:

1. Make Time for Open Communication

Communication problems

Don’t let the stress of the crises you are going through put your communication with your spouse on the back burner. Studies show that one of the main contributing factors to 65% of divorce petitions is poor communication. Set aside at least 10-15 minutes daily to connect emotionally and understand each other’s hearts and needs. Share feelings honestly but gently. Ask open-ended questions to understand what your spouse is thinking and experiencing. Listen without judgment and offer empathy and reassurance.

Tips on marriage like this can help build intimacy in couples and improve communication. Strong communication requires dedication and practice from both partners. By making communication a consistent priority, you can deepen your connection and overcome any marriage issues together.

2. Seek Outside Support When Needed

If marital issues predate the current difficulties, consider marriage counseling to settle them before cracks widen. Build your broader support network by asking family, friends, church members, or professionals for help, prayers and advice when needed. Leaning on your faith community can also provide emotional strength and wisdom.

By working with a licensed therapist, a marriage counselor, a relationship coach, or a pastor, couples can address core issues, manage differences constructively, and strengthen their bond. Seeking professional help takes courage but is well worth it.

"Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold."
~ Proverbs 3:13-14

3. Reaffirm Your Love and Commitment

Make your partner feel cherished by expressing appreciation for their efforts, sensitivity to their needs, faith in their abilities to contribute to solutions, and unwavering commitment. Verbalize that the crisis has made you value their partnership even more. Counter the negativity of external issues with extra positivity in your relationship.

Look for opportunities, both big and small, to reaffirm your dedication and devotion to one another. Send a supportive text in the middle of the day. Greet them with a hug and kiss when getting home from work. Make their favorite meal on a tough day. Appreciating your partner's strengths and reassuring them of your commitment can make a world of difference in strengthening your bond. During turbulent times, a spirit of gratitude, affirmation and affection goes a long way.

4. Allow Space When Required

When tensions run high, give each other room to calm down before reengaging and saying things you might regret. Humble yourself; spend time praying, exercising, doing hobbies, or hanging out with friends to clear your head and gain a possibly different perspective. Then come back together with renewed patience, motivation and perspective. Agree to table heated discussions until you’re both in a better frame of mind.

Taking a breather can prevent arguments from escalating into something damaging. It demonstrates self-control, maturity and commitment to communicating constructively. Make sure to agree on a time to revisit the discussion once emotions have settled. A short-term time out can lead to more positive long-term relationship outcomes.

"Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you."
~ 1 Peter 5:6-7

5. Pray

Dwelling on uncertainties or worst case scenarios will only feed anxiety and arguments. Instead, turn your eyes to the Lord and seek His perspective on the situation.

 “Casting all your cares [all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully].”
~1 Peter 5:7 (AMP)

Learn to release control over the situation by letting go and asking God to take it from you so that He carries the heavy load for you.

Solve problems together one step at a time versus getting overwhelmed by the big picture. Maximize the present—enjoy simple pleasures and quality time together. Appreciating the here and now helps anchor you amidst external chaos.

Every couple faces challenges that test the strength of their marriage. But by leaning on each other’s support, proactively nurturing your connection, and turning to your faith, you can keep your relationship not just intact but thriving. During crises, your priorities may shift, but don’t neglect caring for your marriage. Together you can overcome anything.

Open communication and teamwork are key for couples navigating challenging times. Don’t neglect your relationship - make connecting a daily priority. Seek help to resolve any underlying issues before they escalate. And remember, you’re in this together. With mutual understanding and compassion, you will make it through.

If you want to take your couple communication to the next level, join our Love God Love People community where we will send one newsletter per month offering relationship tips, free resources, and early access to any upcoming retreats, etc.

Trisha and Thomas' 12+ years of experience helping couples deepen their relationship with each other and with God. Let's strengthen our relationships and achieve God's design for an amazing marriage!

Are you feeling like the fire has gone out in your marriage? You're not alone. With the busyness of everyday life, it's easy for the passion and intimacy in a marriage to fizzle out. But fear not, because there are steps you can take to rekindle the spark and bring back the excitement and closeness in your relationship. 

In our October’s podcast episode, we interviewed Pastors Clint & Jennifer Adams where they talked about strengthening your marital connection and tips on how to rekindle sex in marriage.  Here are just a few highlights from this topic for practical and intentional ways to ignite the flames in the bedroom.     

1. Being intentional in your relationship by keeping sex a priority

Pastor Clint said it is important to start by spreading good seeds into your marriage.  He gave some simple ways to do this, such as, being intentional with your words, being intentional with your actions, and being intentional in thinking about your spouse above yourself.  Pastor Jennifer said it is important to shift your perspective from focusing only on yourself and your needs to focusing on loving your spouse and what they need.  She said, “Everything gets taken care of for me when I shift my focus to how I can love him [Clint]”.

“He who loves his life will lose it and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” 
John 12:25 (NKJV)

2. Be sure to cultivate your friendship & nurture intimacy

Building intimacy first starts by spending time with one another and by being friends.  I remember when our kids were young. Thomas and I had demanding jobs and long commutes.  Sometimes it just felt like we were two ships that passed in the wind.  However, we would make it a point to take one evening once or twice a month to let my oldest nephew or my mother in-law babysit.  We didn’t have much money to spend, so we would take a drive somewhere and just listen to music (something we would often do when we first met and fell in love).  Another thing we would sometimes do after a long day is run a bubble bath for the two of us to get in, relax and just talk.  How you build friendship and intimacy as a couple can be unique to you and your relationship.  The important thing is that you cultivate and nurture whatever works for you both to help in keeping your marriage strong.

3. Build a lasting connection

Building and maintaining connection in marriage requires starting outside of the bedroom before even getting inside of the bedroom.  In this episode of Seeds For Your Marriage, Thomas said, “Sex, our physical fitness, our finances, how we communicate, and our relationship with Christ; these are all connected elements in cultivating and sustaining a strong connection in marriage.”  Have open lines of communication with each other about what you both want and need inside and outside of the bedroom.  This can help to create empathy for our spouse and bring vulnerability into the relationship.  When we can be fully authentic in who we are, what we are experiencing, what we want, and share these things in a loving way with our partner, it gives them the opportunity to do the same with us.  This begins to create connection and trust in the relationship.

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We interviewed Pastors Clint & Jennifer Adams (episode 7) on our podcast, Seeds For Your Marriage where they shared how they cultivated a strong connection in their marriage spanning over three decades and gave a wealth of wisdom on keeping the spark alive. From maintaining a steadfast intention for a thriving family and marriage to aligning on shared interests, they leave no stone unturned as they delve into the heart of marital intimacy.

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