5 Communication Techniques for Better Relationships

November 15, 2023
by Trisha Walker
5 Communication Techniques for Better Relationships

Communication is the lifeblood of any healthy relationship, but it can also be one of the biggest sources of conflict and disconnection when done poorly. As Christians, we know that fostering understanding, patience and grace in our relationships aligns with Biblical principles. This is especially crucial in times of hard marriage or recurring couple fights.

Strong, fulfilling relationships don't happen by chance – they take intention, commitment and wise guidance. Through personal experience and years of walking with couples, we've seen firsthand how adopting key communication skills can profoundly deepen connections.

These 5 research-backed, biblically-rooted techniques in communication for relationships, have helped countless individuals and couples overcome communication breakdown, find understanding amidst conflict, and build relationships thriving in mutual care, trust and respect.

1. Create a safe space for open conversations

When sensitive issues arise, intentionally set aside uninterrupted time and give each other full attention. This prevents distractions and helps both parties feel heard. Pray together beforehand asking God for openness.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

(Proverbs 15:1)

2. Get Clear on The Core Issue 

Slow down to clarify the root topic at hand. Don’t gloss over it with assumptions. Clearly defining the issue helps keep the discussion focused and productive. 

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” 

(James 1:19)

3. Speak for yourself with “I” Statements 

Speak for yourself by using “I think” and/or “I feel...” rather than “You did”, “You always”, “You never”...”. This avoids putting your partner on the defensive. Own your emotions and perspectives. 

 “Each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor.”

 (1 Thessalonians 4:4)

4. Listen to fully understand your partner's perspective

Give your partner your full attention without interruptions. Reflect back what you hear in your own words to ensure you understand. Ask thoughtful questions. Don’t dismiss their views. 

“He who has an ear, let him hear.” 

(Revelation 3:13)

5. Take the “High Road” in responses

When tensions rise, avoid reactive statements you’ll regret. Take a break to clear your head, then re-engage with patience and care. Exposing and removing any pride you may have allows you to avoid trying to always be right, trying to get the last word, etc.  Focus instead on putting your partner above yourself and establish a goal to maintain a heart connection with your partner above all else. Learn to manage yourself, your emotions, and your thoughts, and learn to show grace and honor even when the other person may not be doing the same.   right instead of trying to Managing ourselves, Strive to outdo one another in showing grace. 

“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.” 

(Proverbs 19:11)

Practicing these communication skills for marriage may feel uncomfortable at first, but commitment and consistency will lead to breakthroughs. Remember, progress not perfection is the goal. Focus on speaking truthfully, listening actively, and responding with care.

As Hebrews 10:24 reminds us, “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”

Healthy communication honors Christ by building up others. With God's help, choose understanding over winning arguments. Choose patience over anger. And choose love above all else.

If you want to go deeper on improving communication skills for your relationships, we encourage you to access our free webinar recording. This 35-minute webinar on Healthy Habits for Effective Communication provides more practical Christian relationship advice to transform how you connect.

Together through God's wisdom, we can cultivate connections built on grace and understanding.

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Trisha & Thomas Walker have been married for 27+ years, live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have three children. They are relationship coaches and founding Directors of LGLP Ministries, Inc. (Love God Love People), a 501c3 organization since 2014. They were both certified as Couple Communication™ Coaches in 2010 and then as ThriveSphere™ Relationship Map Facilitators in 2020. The minisry’s vision is to see healed and whole families that impact their communities with the love of God to bring restoration, unity, and transformation

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